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    <h2 align="center">Gender with Poly Speed Dating</h2>
    It is very important to us that we promote inclusive events. 
We thus have left self-identification fairly open.  There are five
categories, and you should check off all that you feel apply to you.
When people indicate what they are looking for, they check
off all categories they are open to.  We then match people if there
are no aspects of who they are that are not okay with their potential date.
    <p> The five categories are &quot;Male&quot;, &quot;Female&quot;, &quot;Trans Male&quot;, &quot;Trans
      Female&quot;, and &quot;Genderqueer/Other&quot;.  
      Genderqueer is a more general moniker indicating a
      general fluidity with (or rejection of) gender.  Often genderqueer people
      will also have a primary gender that they identify as.  People can also use
  &quot;genderqueer&quot; to indicate that they are more comfortable with people
      who explore their sexual orientation or gender identity. </p>
    <p> Our understanding can be summarized in the following
      rule: </p>
    <p align="center"><em>You will only be matched with people who are looking
      for all the things you identify as.</em></p>
    Or,
    <p align="center"><em>You will never be matched with people who have checked off a category that you are not open to.</em></p>
    And finally:
    <p align="center"><em>Don't say you are open to trans or genderqueer people unless
      you actually are!</em></p>
    It is not fun for people to go on dates with people who are uninterested in them a priori.
    <!-- <p> We are not allowing matching on &quot;bisexual&quot; or &quot;pansexual&quot;.  We feel it
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    <p> We currently do not have an &quot;intersex&quot; gender category.  Reasons for
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      short, we feel that the
      important thing to focus on for Poly Speed Dating is a
      person's gender identity and presentation. Intersexed people may identitfy as one gender or multiple genders, and
      we hope you will fill their forms out accordingly.</p>
    <h2>Examples</h2>
    Here are some examples to illustrate:
    <h2>Generic Man Hunt</h2>
    If you are looking for men, and check off &quot;males&quot; and nothing else, then you will not be matched with someone who identifies as both a man and a woman, nor would you be matched with someone who identifies as either a transgendered or genderqueer man.
    <h2>Outside of Gender</h2>
    If you do not believe in male and female as gender, and thus select
Genderqueer, and nothing else, as your identified gender, then you
will match anyone who has checked off &quot;genderqueer&quot; for who they are
looking for, regardless of what other boxes they checked off.  Of
course, if you also tell us you are only looking for men, then you will only get men
who meet this criterion.
<h2>Bois</h2>
A Boi might identify as a woman and a genderqueer.  They would
probably say they are only looking for women.  They would then only
get women who have checked off at least the woman and the genderqueer
boxes.
<h2>FTM</h2>
You might select &quot;Male&quot; and &quot;Trans Male.&quot;  You might also select
&quot;Genderqueer&quot; if you wanted to indicate a general fluidity with
gender, or wanted to date people who tended to enjoy gender as
something more open or vague.  You might only select &quot;Trans Male&quot; and
not &quot;Male&quot; if you felt there were people (who you wanted to date) that 
didn't want to date men who were NOT transgendered
(and indeed, there are such people).
<p> Or, if you felt that you were simply male, you might select just
  &quot;Male.&quot;  The risk here is being matched with people who were not so
  tolerant, which would be a waste of your time.  You might then also
  check &quot;Genderqueer&quot; as a filter. </p>
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